Despite the possessive phrasing, this is kind of a painfully frequent experience.
seokjins-hedgehog asked:
A new blog dedicated to bringing visibility to autism in adults - particularly women
Despite the possessive phrasing, this is kind of a painfully frequent experience.
seokjins-hedgehog asked:
That’s a lovely idea!
As an autistic child, especially for boys, it can be very difficult to make friends or interact socially like other kids. This often leaves the majority of us to be at a disadvantage with learning skills at the pace of our peers.
Keeping this in mind, I would advise you to let him guide the interactions. Ask him questions. Find the things that fascinate him and let him explain them to you. Remember that he may not express interest or excitement the same way as others. He may seem uninterested or not look at you, but this is not an indication of dislike. On the contrary, he may be willing to hug or interact with you after all - we’re all different in that way.
Try not to think of him as “an autistic” and just think of him as a child with different neurological development. The majority of us have “autistic superpowers” and a set of “bonus features”. The “superpowers” are our skills that are finely tuned or well above average (math, assembly, linguistics, etc), and our “bonus features” are our idiosyncrasies. These can be things like not liking to be touched, being unable to tolerate certain sounds, or listening to movies or music at very loud volumes.
He is already aware that he is different, and so are you. My request on his behalf is to be as “normal” as possible, but to remember to explain your feelings and emotions as you have them. If he kicks you a response would be “please don’t do that, that hurts me and makes me want to leave”. Or if he plays music too loudly a response might be “I like your music but it hurts my ears. Could we turn it down?” Autistic individuals are unable to decipher emotions or unspoken thoughts. Many of us, especially women, rely on movies, TV shows, and very verbal friends to tell us what emotions correspond to certain expressions or sounds.
I’m excited for you and him to have this opportunity! Good luck.
autisticartemio asked:
It’s absolutely okay to follow! While the blog is geared towards autistic adults who identify as women, the ultimate goal is to bring visibility and promote resources and interaction between all autistic adults. Welcome to the community!
Okay but can we talk about the literal hours of mental preparation required to participate in any type of social interaction?
Am I talking too much? Am I not talking enough? Have I remembered to ask about them? What if I monopolized the conversation again? Did I interrupt? Have they lost interest?
Has anyone learned this secret? If so please share…
Could I PLEASE stop seeing period dramas where women aren’t wearing chemises under their corsets
Also to add- corsets were not because of “patriarchical oppression”. In most cases it was how you held up and supported your boobs with the benefit of shaping your figure at the same time. Just like a bra today. I hate it when some actresses refuse to wear corsets for a role that ABSOLUTELY WOULD HAVE WORN ONE because they’re trying to express their feminism. Like, I get it, it’s 100% okay to express your feminism but for goodness sakes do some historical research about what it actually was before making assumptions
Also, also, please no more “I can’t get into my corset without help” because that’s nonsense. I’m sure there were a lot of rich ladies who were laced in every day but a lot of other women managed to put on corsets themselves just fine. There was a study done in the 1887 about how women laced their corsets and the majority of them didn’t lace it so tightly they couldn’t breathe. In fact most women laced it to a comfortable place, with a 3 to 4 inch gap at the back.
There are so many myths about corsets and I’m passionate about accurate depictions of historical clothing
Tightlacing a corset and just wearing one to support your boobs are two different things!!!!
